The initial protective instincts for a loved one, may
prompt you into trying to do everything yourself. If
assistance is offered, do not hesitate to accept it. This
will help you conserve energy, as also give yourself and
your patient, a change.
Most things, you will have to do yourself. But help can
always be taken for housekeeping, grocery and
medicine shopping, baby-sitting, dog walking,
driving, etc.. At least the burden of ordinary chores
can be relieved.
Many of the people surrounding you may want to help
and cannot imagine how to do this. Tell them
yourself. Pride and ego have no place in such
situations.
If it becomes necessary and you can afford it, consider
day care facilities or nursing assistance at home.
Choose pragmatic options over emotional ones. Help
of this kind will allow you to enhance your
productivity and income. This can provide change as
well as financial relief.
Keep Trying New Support Options
Finding the energy, inclination and initiative to try
something new, may feel next to impossible, on most
days.
There are countless safe alternative therapies. For
most of us, there is much to be learned about
different coping skills, psychological tools, new
mindsets, deeper and clearer understanding of faith,
religion or spirituality.
When one is struggling to achieve even a minimal
quality of life, the idea of diverting resources towards
such ambiguous activities, is very likely to seem
impractical, if not wasteful.
However, any one of these may prove to be your
lifeline.
Do not underestimate the strength and support
waiting to be derived from such means. The learning
process in itself, instills hope. It diverts your attention
away from worries and fears. Actively attempting to
improve the situation, lessens the sense of
helplessness and takes away the notion of being the
powerless victims.
It is easier to accept what one cannot change,
provided you are confident, that you have exhausted
every means possible, to try and change it.